A Guy Thing

If you’ve just learned that you are going to become a father, this could be a confusing time for you. It’s completely normal to have lots of different thoughts and feelings, and it may take a long time to get used to the idea of becoming a father. This guide will help you think through some of the issues you are facing. When you find out you are going to be a father, you might feel:

• Shocked
• Excited
  
• Worried
• Angry
• Uncertain
• Scared
• Happy
• Disappointed
• Doubtful
• Nervous

If you’re having difficulty dealing with any of these feelings, it may help to talk with the woman carrying the baby (whether or not she’s your partner), because she may be feeling many of the same things. If communication with her is difficult, it may help to talk with a health care provider, parent/guardian, another trusted adult or one of our trained PCGC Peer Counselors.

YOU CAN HELP DURING THE PREGNANCY AND HERE'S HOW:

• Communicate- Talk with the future mother of your child about  her feelings and fears – she may be having some of the same thoughts as you. Give her a chance to let you know how she’s feeling and spend time listening to what she has to say.
• Be sensitive to her physical condition and emotional needs by understanding that she may be moody or physically uncomfortable at times.
• Make it clear that you are in this together. Let her know that you want to be as involved in the pregnancy as possible. If she has not already done so, go with her to talk to her parents. It may also be helpful for you to go with her to her medical appointments.
• Attend childbirth and parenting classes.
• Plan Ahead- Think about the financial needs of raising a child and start saving money. Consider finding a part-time job to help pay for childcare expenses. Babies and children need clothing, food, and equipment such as a crib and stroller. When they are older they will have more expenses. Also, think about your career goals and whether or not you have to stay in school to achieve them.

Becoming a Father: Parenting Resources
All of your worries, concerns and fears about becoming a father are completely normal. The good news is that you are not alone, and there are resources that will help you get ready to become a great father.

http://fathers.com/
http://www.parenthood.com/welcome.php
http://fatherhood.hhs.gov/

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